Girls Who Lie About Their Age Should Be Charged With A Sex Crime
There have been a number of recent high profile cases that confused the true labels of victim and predator.
Lenore Skenazy recently wrote an article that set the internet ablaze. Eek! A Male! highlighted how automatically treating all men as potential predators was not making our children safe.
While Lenore wasn’t necessarily addressing this issue, we should keep in mind that sometimes the sweet little angel is actually the predator and the man is the victim.
Steelers quarterback Ben Roethlisberger was recently accused of sexual assault for having sex with a 20 year old woman in a bar. Roethlisberger was not charged with rape (I’m not here to debate his guilt), and many demanded that he be charged with another crime because the woman was not of legal age to drink. Roethlisberger had been buying her drinks all night.
I found it curious that so many people would blame Roethlisberger for the woman being underage when she is the one who lied about her age to get into the bar, and the bar let her in. How exactly is that Ben’s fault? Doesn’t he have a reasonable expectation that a woman in a bar is of legal age? Wouldn’t the young woman really be the criminal here?
Then there’s former Giants linebacker Lawrence Taylor. He recently plead guilty to having sex with a minor, and will become a registered sex offender. Taylor claims he was told by the girl that she was 19, and I believe him after following the case.
Taylor plead guilty to avoid prison, but shouldn’t the girl face some punishment as well? If Taylor is telling the truth, he’s the victim. Maybe she should be the registered sex offender.
In 2008, a man was sentenced to prison for having sex with a 13 year old girl. Before you express your disgust, there’s some things you need to know about the case.
First – this girl portrayed herself as 18, and she looks the part. During the trial her online profile portrayed her as a 19 year old divorced woman.
But wait! There’s more!
Second – when this man found out she may not be 18 he immediately went to her father for the truth. He never saw her again. Clearly he showed sound character by his actions.
Third – this was the SECOND guy to go to prison for being misled by this girl. Previously, another man was sentenced to 5 years for sleeping with her. She is a perpetual sexual predator, but it is the men who face legal trouble because we can’t possibly hold a young girl responsible for her actions.
Do we really expect men to have to card every woman they come in contact with? Not only is that unrealistic, and abundantly absurd, but it reminds me of the Roethlisberger situation I wrote about earlier. Remember, she used a fake ID to get into that bar, and people still wanted Roethlisberger to be held accountable. So now we want men to card every woman they meet, AND be able to spot a fake ID? Then we have to deal with said woman’s anger when we question her honesty.
Perhaps you don’t think it’s possible for a person’s age to be in question.
Actors from the popular show Glee recently came under fire for a photo shoot in GQ magazine. The criticism expressed was that these actors portrayed teenagers on the show, and therefore a shoot like this was akin to child pornography. Yes, child pornography. Problem is, all of the actors are adults. One of them is pushing 30.
Here’s some more older actors who passed as teenagers.
Clearly it’s possible to look a different age than you really are.
I question a legal system where the person who has done no wrong is treated as the predator. While the person who deliberately set out to mislead, and lie, is the victim.
It’s time for US legal code to catch up to young predators. Our society is blurring the line of what is, and is not, age appropriate. If a girl lies about her age, it is she who is committing the crime, not the man being lied to. To treat him as the criminal is an affront to justice. Perhaps if we addressed this issue fairly it would not be such an issue.